When I first moved in with my partner, we often argued over what I called “little stuff”—like turning off the lights after using the bathroom or keeping lights on during the day. To me, these seemed minor, but to my partner, they were significant.

Growing up in Nigeria, electricity was a rare luxury. We had to leave the switch on as a way to confirm that the power was working. The joy of shouting “Up NEPA!”—a nod to the electricity distribution agency—whenever the lights came on was a cherished part of my childhood. It was more than just light; it was a symbol of progress.

Decades later, even with a constant power supply, I clung to these old habits. The simple act of leaving lights on was my way of holding onto a piece of my past.

But recently, something shifted. After a guest left the lights on and I turned them off, I felt a surprising change within me. It was as if I was not only conserving energy but also letting go of an old habit. This seemingly small act connected me to my present values and reflected my personal growth.

This experience highlights the ripple effect of our actions. Every choice, no matter how small, can influence our lives and the world around us. By consciously changing our habits, we can create positive ripples of transformation.

So next time you’re dealing with seemingly trivial habits, remember: every action has the potential to create meaningful change. Sometimes, it’s these small, intentional shifts that reveal the true extent of our personal evolution.